For many people across America, Halloween kicks off the holiday season. With many major holidays occurring between now and January 1st, this time of year can be incredibly stressful. Figuring out holiday plans, finding the perfect gifts for all your friends and family, and hosting parties and guests can easily burn anyone out. For others, this time of year can be triggering, conjuring up memories of past traumas or feelings of loneliness and low self-worth. Navigating the holidays can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be. Concierge Counseling for the VIP, your premier provider of discreet counseling services, offers these five tips for managing holiday stress.
Tip 1: Don’t Over-Commit
One of the greatest errors we make during this time of year is accepting every invitation to every event or party we receive. Often, it is in fear of missing out or hurting someone’s feelings. Overbooking yourself isn’t the solution, as often you will find yourself with conflicting plans and forced to cancel on someone anyway. The guilt of not making it to everything you are invited to is misplaced; you can only do so much at once. Instead of committing to plans immediately, tell your friends and family members you will check your schedule and get back to them. Make time for the most important events and put your own comfort and safety first when finalizing plans.
Tip 2: Delegate
There are tons of things that need to be done around the holidays, but you don’t have to be the one to do it all. Make it a family affair! Get the kids involved with cleaning the house and decorating; invite friends to go holiday shopping with you so it’s not so overwhelming. Let your partner or spouse take some of the pressure of your shoulders. If you are solo this holiday season, take advantage of the services available to you. Grocery delivery services and online shopping for gifts can cut your holiday stress down immensely. Plus, with in-home discreet counseling services, you can make time for a therapy appointment without having to leave your home.
Tip 3: Get Comfortable Setting and Enforcing Boundaries
This one goes hand-in-hand with not over-committing yourself. The holidays often create a pressure to forgive and accept toxic people back into our lives, rather it be family members, former lovers, or friends. Know that it is okay to say ‘no’ and turn down invitations to events or parties where former abusers or toxic people will be present. Putting yourself first and enforcing personal boundaries is a form of self-love.
Tips 4: Use a Planner
For some people, physically writing down a to-do list or schedule helps to keep things organized and moving smoothly. If that’s you, feel free to do so. Use your phone’s built-in calendar or notepad to keep track of important information and everything you need to do. Remember, this list is just a tool to help you stay organized, it is not set in stone. If things need to be moved around, don’t let it stress you out.
Tip 5: Schedule Downtime
The easiest way to get holiday burnout is to think you have to complete everything all in one go. You don’t; scheduling downtime to relax and take care of yourself is vital now and throughout the year. Give yourself time to unwind each night. Schedule weekend time to just relax and treat yourself. This will allow you to regroup and come back into the game stronger and more focused than before. Scheduling at-home counseling with Concierge Counseling for the VIP is a great way to refocus on you.